Hopefully the mods won't see this until I get a few answers, but I see it as disrespectful for men to approach, flirt with, or even stare at a woman who is with a man in public unless it's obvious I'm gay or her pimp. And my male ego won't allow me to take anything I see as that. This is why most things we have messed around with was her alone. If she's dressed provocatively and men are paying attention to it I see it as them challenging me even if the attention is the point of it. And when it came to meeting a third or potential there are a lot of ways he could make me feel disrespected. And her if she is receptive to any of it. If you have a public meeting, and you walk in with her and they end up kissing or touching don't you have to feel at least slightly humiliated? I feel like many do but they don't want to admit it's turning them on. For me I admit the idea turns me on because of jealousy and other negative feelings.