This sub has helped with tremendous honesty and advice for a newbie so thanks so much but i have something else where feedback would be appreciated.

My husband has been encouraging me to sleep with other men (everything from gangbang, strangers, co-workers, and people we meet online). So far none of these options have been good enough for me although I haven’t ruled out strangers because ultimately I want this experience to be organic and when I’m out with my GFs there are no limits.

The drawback is ideally id like my husband to be there. If he is out with me at a nightclub dancing it throws off the dynamic of being with other men. The pace and energy of a nightclub is too fast and intense for me to both interact with him and other men.

During pillow talk he’s suggested a fantasy that made me excited for the thrill but also could be realistic, involve him and have the right mood or energy which are all important to me.

Essentially it’s as simple as going out with a guy friend of ours who I have a crush on (and he on me) and then coming back to our house for an after party where anything may or may not happen (no pressure or disappointment if it doesn’t work).

I’m hesitant to have him discuss with our friend ahead of time because planning sets up too many expectations which may not be interesting when the time comes. Now if it’s 2am and I want to proceed I can make subtle moves on his friend and if it doesn’t lead to anything then it’s really easy to laugh it off and pretend I wasn’t serious. If something does happen it gives us all the excuse that well we were drunk whoops and from there could be a one time event or work with this guy on future dates and actually plan from there.

While this all works well for both of our fantasies, it remains organic, it give us outs if this works or fails there still is the problem of involving a friend.

I know some swear never to be with friends but I love the idea of security where we know this is a good, kind, healthy and trustworthy person. Plus we already have a mutual crush on each other.

Do you say it’s impossible, can it work, what are some do’s and don’ts within this framework? Thanks in advance.