My wife and I have been together for ~8 years, married for one and a half. I've wanted her to sleep with another man for a long time (plenty of theories on why I like the idea), and in fact we briefly opened our relationship several years ago and each had sex with one other person, but for the last few years we've been focused on building our careers and really starting our life together. I'd continued to fantasize about it, and occasionally brought it into our dirty talk, but she was not interested in looking for a random guy on a dating app and I was patient, knowing we had plenty of time in our lives to explore together.

However, our gradual process changed suddenly a couple weeks ago when I found the profile of a close friend on a lifestyle website. This is someone I've known for a long time, even longer than my wife, and someone who was actually at our wedding. In fact, he's pretty much responsible for my wife and I being together, as he was the one who invited her to the party where we met in college. Even better, he was into hotwives, and it looked like he had already had some experience with married women.

I know there can be hesitancy on here about whether to invite in a third who the couple already knows, but he was someone we had talked about already as a potential third for us, so after discussing it with my wife, and knowing that our relationship is in a strong, clear spot, we decided to approach him and ask if he was interested in playing together with us.

Since he was my friend, I was the one to approach him, and I have to say calling him to ask if he wanted to have sex with my wife was a bit of a nerve-wracking experience. It went well though, he was interested, and soon we set up a group chat between the three of us. It immediately got pretty sexual, and it was wild sitting there and watching my wife sext with him. He lives somewhat far away from us, but we quickly set up a potential time to meet about a week out. Although I know there is hesitancy on this too, but since he was already a friend, we decided to meet at our house and have him stay the night. I knew I wanted to be there the first time, but I also know that sex can be hard to script, especially with the nerves and excitement of a first experience, so I was willing to just let things flow and see what happened.

Leading up to the meeting, we were both nervous, but very turned on, and I don't think my wife and I have had sex as much as we did in that week. My wife is someone who has a hard time getting turned on by fantasies, but once it was real and there was a date set up, she was really into the idea of being shared.

He had a bit of a trip to visit us, so when he arrived we gave him some time/space to take a shower and take a quick nap. Then, we all got ready and headed out to a cocktail bar. I think it was a really good idea to not immediately try and get to sex or stay at our place, since being out gave us a chance to just reconnect (she hadn't seen him since our wedding) and get out some of the nerves. My wife also looked extremely sexy in her dress, and to tease him a little bit she didn't wear a bra. At one point, he went to the bathroom, and we took a moment to check in and see how we were both feeling. The answer was good, and we wanted this to keep going.

On the short drive back to our place, she sat in the back seat with him while I drove. Not too much happened, other than a few kisses on the neck and some leg/thigh touching, but it was very hot seeing her sitting back there with him. When we got back, he went outside to smoke a joint, while I poured myself a glass of wine. I didn't learn this until afterwards, but they kissed for the first time while I was in the kitchen. We then moved inside to our living room, where he and my wife sat on one couch while I sat across from them in a chair.

It didn't take too long before my wife made the first move, straddling him and kissing him. Everything happened quickly after that. She changed into some lingerie that we had picked out ahead of time (again looking incredible), and they kept kissing and feeling each other up as they moved into our bedroom. I followed, just taking in the crazy moment. After some foreplay, including my wife sucking my dick while my friend ate her out from behind, I noticed that he was not super aroused, maybe due to nerves. It's not something that I necessarily expected to happen during our first time, but I decided to leave the room and give them some alone time.

I sat in the living room and took a moment to see how I was feeling. There was certainly some angst leaving my wife in our bedroom with our door closed, but I wasn't upset, and was still turned on. There is definitely something hot about straining to listen through a closed door for hints at what is going on. Eventually, I started hearing her moan more frequently, and I decided I needed to see what was happening. So I opened the door and walked in to see them having sex, which was incredibly hot. I watched them for a while, and then we tried to do a spitroast, but he started having some trouble again, so I took over. He left to the guest room at that point, and I fucked her for a little while, and then I asked her if she wanted to go back to him, and she said yes. She went into the guest room with him and they fooled around for a while, but he was tired and still having trouble getting hard, so eventually she came back and he went to sleep. I was worked up from everything that happened of course so we had sex and then went to sleep as well.

The next morning, my wife and I woke up early and talked a little. We didn't want to leave things as they were, a little unsatisfying, so we agreed she would go over to his room and see what happened. She put on a sexy thong and a cute sweater and I watched her walk over to his room. The next 20 minutes were agonizing, wondering what was happening, but soon I started to hear some rhythmic slapping. I had to see what was happening so I cracked the door to his room, and saw my wife's legs up in the air while he fucked her. I stayed there for a while, incredibly turned on, watching them have sex. Eventually they stopped and he came out to go the bathroom (we're still not totally sure if he came that time, they used condoms together), and I went in to see how she was doing. She asked if she could stay in his room a while longer, and I said yes, so again I kissed my naked wife and left her with my friend.

There was another ~20 minutes of agonizing silence, which later I learned was them partially cuddling and dozing off. I started hearing noises again, but this time I gave them some more time and just listened to them clearly having sex. Eventually I was just so horny that I opened the door and walked in, to see my wife handcuffed, legs up in the air, blindfolded and with tape over her mouth while my friend fucked her. This may have been the most incredibly erotic and mind-blowing thing I'd ever seen, so I just knelt on some pillows by the side of the bed and started jerking off while watching. He stopped fucking her, turned her over, and ate her out to orgasm while I watched. Then, he started fucking her in a doggystyle/prone position, while I caressed her and held her hand. In the end, he came inside her (in a condom) while I tightly held her hand, which was another crazy experience, and then we all laid on the bed and talked for a little.

Not too much happened after that, he hung out for a while, they kissed a couple more times, and then he headed out. Overall, outside of the intense sexual moments, I was surprised at how normal it all felt. I've read a lot about how the real thing can be a lot different than the fantasy, but I can honestly say I enjoyed all the things we tried, and while there was certainly some angst, I was never upset or jealous. It didn't go exactly how either my wife and I hoped it would in some respects, but I think it's unrealistic to expect that and I think we did a good job adjusting as things happened.

Since he left on Saturday, my wife and I have said "I love you" a lot, had sex, masturbated together, shared how it went from our own viewpoints (I've learned some fun details that I missed when I was out of the room), and talked about how we're feeling/what happens next. I don't know exactly where we will go from here, and we need to see how our third feels, but so far it seems like this has only brought my wife and I closer together.

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