Hey y’all - this is a bit more of a stag/vixen question but not sure there is a better place to ask. We’ve been in the LS for a couple of years and have recently chatted about bringing a single male vs a couple into the mix.

I know it’s going to take a while as wife is picky and there are a lot of frogs and not a lot of princes.

My question is, once you identify someone, meet them for a vibe check, etc. How do you move from vibe check to sex? I’m definitely going to be involved with either an mfm or mmf. My wife is more on the sub side and will never take control - just not her style. We also do not want a dom/classic bull type of guy.

Any and all advice is helpful!