My wife and I share a fetlife account, which is basically her account, but I upload new pics and stuff here and there. She uses it to find/chat with people in the area for potential play partners. Recently I was reading through a message thread with her and a guy (yes, she knows I do this) to see if there was anything juicy in discussion. I noticed they had gotten on the topic of expectations of a FWB, which is ultimately what my wife is looking for, not a ONS. So, her expectation is that she would find a fwb and they would be exclusive to each other in terms of fwb/play partners. As in, she would not want him to be playing with other people in addition to her. The guy kinda called her out on it being a bit much to expect and I don't necessarily disagree with him. She said it is due to STD/STI concern, which is a valid concern in the lifestyle as well.

I'm looking for other hotwives to weigh in on this type of expectation. She's only had one play partner so far, but I'm wondering if she isn't really into being a Hotwife and this is her way to avoid continuing with it, without directly telling me she isn't into it.