As a Hotwife that does solo a lot, the communication with my hubby is KEY! I hate not messaging him if it’s been over an hour, if it’s longer it’s ok because I have built up to that and he knows soon as pic the phone up it’s to send him videos and pics of all the fun I have had.

Maybe the guy she is with isn’t into the whole taking pics/videos. If that’s the case, find a new guy because it’s supposed to be about you and her not her and him.

The concern is the lack of consideration. The amount of time to respond clearly means you were not on her (and certainly not his mind) after the privilege of solo play which requires trust and, at a minimum, consideration for safety. How would it play it if the tables were turned. The number of pics/video can always be debatable if there was an explicit understanding of what the expectation would be. However that still does not excuse the lack of consideration. You are wise to remove this element from your relationship and level set again before resuming.