Long story short, we had an open relationship 10 years ago and that's when I learned I really love when my wife is with other people. We had kids, she had breast implant illness. She was a HARD no.

She's since gotten the implants removed and now we're back to semi-normal. We've played with dildos in bed, she wears an anklet, she keeps a condom in her purse (even though it's more symbolic than anything else), etc.

I've always told her that if it never moves past the fantasy stage I'm 100% fulfilled and happy. I probably overly reassure her of that honestly. That's where her comfort level was and I never pushed her to go past it.

Anyway, I tossed out the idea of joining Feeld just to see what's out there. She could text and keep it at that or she could do more. She also could just say no and we could keep it in the bedroom and have it be just for us.

She said why not? Took a few days for her her to join, I helped create her profile and choose pictures. She had 237 matches in less than two days lmao.

She's been chatting with a couple and today she came to me with a few questions and concerns (what if they make her cum better than I can? what would the logistics be when meeting, etc). We've been talking about it through text this morning. I'm trying to think of things that might bring her down (people flaking, people seeming like nice dudes but ending up being dicks, people who over promise and under perform, and so on) just so she is aware that this will not be as perfect as it might seem.

Anyway, I'm over the moon because she seems to be very comfortable right now which is not something she has been for a very long time. I don't really have many people I'd be comfortable talking about this with so I figured I'd post here. Hopefully I can update soon, telling you that us three are meeting for a drink somewhere to see if we vibe!

For the guys who have wives that are a no: Stay patient and be understanding, fellas. My wife is legitimately a hard no. To the point that she didn't want me to bring it up anymore, she felt pressured, etc. I listened to her and we talked it out. I let her ask questions and paid attention to things she did and how she acted.

If she was talking to a father at our kid's jiu jitsu class, she'd tell me about it. Eventually I'd say "Do you think he's cute?" and she admitted that yes she did find him hot. I reassured her that it's all fantasy and we don't shit where we eat, but it would be hot if we included that in the bedroom. She was game. So we became comfortable talking about Mr. X's fat dick stretching her pussy and her coming home covered in his cum and things like that.

Then she became more comfortable with things like that and here we are. So be patient and, more importantly, listen to what she says and ask questions :)