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Wife and I are new to this. Just been exploring for a couple of months. We have had one mff experience and had the possibility of another one a few days ago with the same girl and the possibility of another one tonight with w different girl. Every man's dream. The night we was out with the other girl my wife was talking to her about some of the chatting she has been doing online with other guys and other couples. One of our rules was that we didn't discuss those things with other people. When I overheard that I was instantly mad. My mood for the rest of the night ruined the chance of the mff that night and possibly for the one tonight. I tried to suppress my feelings so I didn't ruin the possibility, but couldn't. I know it was a small rule but it was broken.

We have talked since and she knows she broke that rule. Alcohol was involved which didn't help. Just makes me nervous about future rules and the posof them being broken if small ones can't be followed.

Any tips or advice would be appreciated. I wish I could of just got over it and not ruined the night and talked to her the next day about it..

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I’m similar to you. Wife and I had some issues similar. I personally suppress and then talk after- or argue depending on my mood. It was never rules that was broken per say, we had soft rules and some things I thought were a given. But when I suppress stuff she will notice my behavior change.

What we do is just well, communicate— I know cliche right? I prefer to talk once the dust has settled and my emotions are at check. Everytime there has been some friction regardless of if it’s in the lifestyle, it has been helpful to talk when both parties are calm and actually listening to each other.

So my advice to you is talk with each other about it when both parties are calm and willing to listen. And be honest about your feelings, and why.

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