Not as exciting as most, but here’s my evolution: - Like many, I married young, thought it would last forever, and never thought I would ever share my wife. About a decade in I had to be away for a few months (work) and she cheated. The kids are what kept me in the marriage. - Eventually she convinced me her infidelity was just about the sex and gifted me a fmf as proof/restitution. That started my journey into swinging. - We enjoyed swinging for many years and tried just about everything that the Life Style (LS) had to offer. From that experience I learned I mostly enjoy maximizing my girl’s pleasure. - When my marriage ended (not due to swinging), I thought I was done with the LS and went full vanilla for several years. - I eventually got really bored and craved the excitement of the LS, so I started searching for a LS playmate.
- Though I had swinging experience, I had never heard of a Hotwife (Hotwife). Lucky for me, I just happened to find a local HW that I instantly connected with both in and out of the bedroom. - Mind you I’m just average in size, but I do exercise and try to stay trim. Like the term HW, I had never heard the term “bull” used for a playmate until she used that term for me. - I serviced her for a more than a few years and though I was always respectful of her marriage and even admired them as a couple, she and I ended up being true lovers. I loved her and she loved me, and she was also happily married. It was a win-win-win. During that time I was mostly exclusive to her (had little time for any other relationship). - Eventually I felt I needed more emotionally and decided to move on. I still love and miss being her lover (aka bull). - I knew I couldn’t go vanilla again so I purposely searched for a girl with a kinky side. I found a girl with a healthy libido, but only two LS experiences (FF while being watched; and a BF swap).
- I took her to her first LS club and introduced her to mfm, which she very much enjoyed. We’ve dabbled in that facet of the LS for a while now. She’s still not ready to share me (may never be), but oddly I’m okay with that. As I mentioned above, I mostly get off on my girl’s pleasure. Though I thoroughly enjoy watching her get serviced, I’m not a beta. I consider myself more of a stag because I retain complete control and usually join in a bit too.

So my journey (thus far) has been vanilla, to swinger, to vanilla, to bull, to stag. Not sure how this compares to others, but I know I’m very happy with where I am at the moment. I wish the same for all of you.