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My wife and I have been into this for a few years now, with a few meets. A few months ago a joiner/carpenter came to the house to work on a few things. He and my wife got on well and there was chemistry, my wife asked me how I felt if she flirted with him, I said go for it as long as I get to know everything that happens. Later on she messages me to say that she gave him a blow job which was very hot, I got home we had very hot sex and she told me everything, (or so I thought) and that was that. Over the next few months she is very suspicious with her phone. Long story short, I find out that they had sex, but that they had also been texting and meeting behind my back for the last 3 months. I only found out because I seen pictures in her phone which I wasn't supposed to. I don't know the whole truth in the sense I don't know how many times they met, they had sex etc. It has broken my heart. I am trying to forgive her but it's very difficult. She is very apologetic and knows how badly she has fucked up.
So word of warning from me, this lifestyle can be hot however it has fucked our marriage and I wish I had kept it as a fantasy.
Thank you much appreciated. Yes absolutely I don't understand why she didn't want me to part of it. Says she was enjoying the attention, it's going to be very hard to rebuild the relationship and any trust
Thank you I appreciate that, she knows how selfish and wrong she is, or so she says anyway, hard to believe anything now
I don't understand why they feel the need to be sneaky, they almost have carte blanche to do what they want, on one condition, let me fucking know. It hurts a lot and I think not knowing a lot of what's been said in the messages over 3 months is what's really pissing me off. Says they only met twice in total but again, how am I supposed to believe that
Yes possibly, I don't know her reasoning and likely never will
I always said if someone cheated on me it's automatic "I'll see you later" but when it happens, it's so much worse then the hypothetical scenario, I want to work things out because we have a family etc, but it's so hard. I appreciate your words mate!
Yes absolutely, I don't know why did not want to be a part of.
Yes mate I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I do hope you continue having great experiences!
Yes if she had been transparent with me, told me they had sex, and told me they were texting and shown me the texts then fine. But she told me there was no contact with him since it happened, which was a bare faced lie as they had been texting almost every day for 3 months
I really appreciate that, it's fantastic advice and I can't say I disagree with any of it
I wish this was a fantasy, this is a true and utter fucking disaster
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Million percent, as long as I had total transparency which is what we agreed on I was fine, I understand in the moment things moved on but there was no talk of don't go past a blowjob etc, I was open to everything as long as I was told all the details!