Exactly a month ago I told my wife I would love it if she would fuck someone else. She gave a no, said it sounds hot but no. I had playfully said this many times over the years but this was the first time. Currently we’re at agreeing some basic rules and her telling me to research how we would find a third. It’s not yet a go but more check it out.

I am happily surprised and a bit nervous on how it’s progressing, I thought it would be much slower.

See below the background but here are my ideas of next steps. What do you think? Extra advice?

1-Research and show ways we can find a third (dating apps, swinger clubs, swinger forums, bars and dance parties 28/10, an ex, other…..).

2-Roll play her fucking dildos, sending me texts and then me going to reclaim her.

3-Get her to flirt at a bar tonight. I’ve put out a very short skirt for her.

4-Try to also be dominant with her.

5-Don’t push it everyday.

Progress made since then is quicker than I expected in order from oldest to most recent.

1-She is more often dressing sexy.

2-She has let me make a short gif us fucking with a big cock sleeve and post it. This was a 100% no until now.

3-She said her main fantasy is to be submissive to a dominant third. No details yet on how submissive.

4-She just revealed yesterday that her best lover was a gentle dominant that she could totally surrender herself to him. She would love to experience this. I didn’t know until now that she wanted this. Definitely something new to try ourselves. I’ve been this type of dom in a previous relationship and loved it.

5-During a serious discussion yesterday there was major progress asking for clarification on some of her rules.

6-I was shocked when she also asked how we would go about finding a third. Not a “let's find one” but more come back to me with some ideas.

7-After the two above revelations we had sex with a big sleeve pretending it was another guy leading to a major O. Then I reclaimed her and she said he came in her pussy twice which led to another serious O.

8-After having sex we went through the same points again to make it pretty clear.

Her first rules:

Her being a hotwife does not give me permission to have another woman;

She doesn't want me there because she won't be able to let herself go. (I think she is embarrassed about being submissive in front of me….);

She will send texts and tell me about it afterwards;

If the first tryout goes bad it could be the last;

She can stop it whenever she wants to;

She wants him to cum in her pussy;

She doesn’t want to humiliate me;

He must be dominant, but no details yet on how far, but I guess pretty tame like her ex;

How would we find a third:

She asked "so how would we go about finding someone?". I was really surprised how quickly she asked this.

Her first reactions are:

Not someone we know;

She didn't say no to an ex;

Open to a flirt meetup, then a date first to be sure;

Open to dating apps or forums and I said I will research it, I thought I had months or even years to research.

I am feeling nervous now with her revelation about wanting to be dominated by another guy and asking me to research how we would find someone. At first I was hurt that she had never asked be to be dom and that she couldn't submit to me but now it's just a bit jealous and also turned on that she is thinking about this.