Good morning r/HotWifeLifestyle!

My wife and I are trying to work our way up to her hooking up with another man. My wife is shy and is trying to make the baby steps into the lifestyle as she knows this is a deep fantasy of mine. We've discussed the scenario and she doesn't mind the idea, and we've been slowly working towards this for almost a year now. We've tried roleplaying with a toy being the "third" or bull a few times, but it never really works out. My wife doesn't enjoy roleplay as she doesn't know what to say, how to act, and can't really imagine someone else fucking her because all she feels is a dick and that's it. I've tried having her be in control, I've tried narrating and creating a scene for her, we even tried roleplaying using the mental image of a guy we met at a bar thinking that mental image might help as it's more real. Unfortunately nothing we have tried has worked.

Outside of making contact with someone and her sexting them, does anyone else have any ideas on how to progress or a different route we can take that avoids roleplay all together? Any advice or suggestions are appreciated!