Hi all, we are early 30s couple married and have been in and out of the lifestyle. Our first real experience I was there in the roo. While my wife and her date had sex, I thought it was unbelievable. My wife felt it was a bit awkward me there and didn't really enjoy it. I don't think it helped he was a great ride.. really did show that size isn't everything! Second experience was kind out of the blue, we had a handsome joiner in doing some work and he was flirting with my wife and she was into it. We were texting and I told her to do whatever she felt comfortable doing. Later she text me to say she had gave him a blow job. For me whilst I found it incredibly hot she had done this out if the blue, there was no pictures of videos (selfish I know) and I wasn't Included in any messages between them so felt "left out" so I explained I wouldn't want to do that again.

Any advice on how we move forward?