My wife has a side guy. He's cool enough. She has made a few rounds of videos for me to enjoy, and boy howdy, do I ever enjoy them. The vids are great.

That was sort of our deal. I wanted her to make videos for me and they're excellent.

She hasn't seen this guy since May, which means no new videos. She has been acting like she's sorta over the HW thing. Like, it was a fantasy, she did a few times and fulfilled her fantasy, and now she's past it and doesn't really think about it. I've brought it up a few times since May, but it usually gets either no interest or mild interest from her, but never excitement like it did at first. Part of her fantasy is cheat-play. Like, we both know she was going to his house, but she'd text things like "Hey honey I'm at Michelle's house and we are gonna go shopping and grab dinner. I'll text you later!" and that was hot because we both knew what was really going on. It was fun to pretend I didn't know.

Anyway, like I said, it's been like 4 months since she last met her side guy... or so I thought.

She had told me that she periodically texts him, but just every couple weeks. They just sorta check in, maybe trade nudes and that's it.

I now know for certain she met him last week. She went without telling me. She told me she had a work-related function to attend, and I just assumed it ran really late (she wasn't home til like 10 or 11 PM and she works in the kind of place where they would have office parties that run super late). But I know what actually happened is she stopped by the work thing for a minute or two and then spent the evening at his place.

The next day, she had lots of stories about what the work party was like. Who showed up, what food was served, the music they played etc... I now know that most of this was just carefully selected details or perhaps even fabrications.

Of course she didn't bring me home any videos this time.

And that's what bugs me. This lifestyle is meant to be about both of us. This isn't her just getting hers. This is supposed to be us getting ours together (with the help of a willing and happy 3rd party).

TBH I don't know how many other times she has met up with him. Probably not many, if at all, since she really never has unexplained absences and he lives like 45 mins away (so she can't just sneak over and claim she went to Panera or something). As far as I know, this is the only time since May she has met him.

I'm just sad and anxious today. This is supposed to be our thing, not hers alone. Stuff like this only works if we are open and honest.

Maybe she liked the cheat-play so much that she wanted to try the real thing? Idk part of me wants to ask her stuff to confirm what I believe, but also I don't wanna make her think I regret doing the HW thing with her (cuz I don't)