So my son (12) has a best friend also (12) and his mom has always been overly friendly with me. I’m not used to being hit on as me Caucasian 45 always was skinny but after I started finally exercising and put on 43 pounds I went from 5’9” and 129 lbs to 172 lbs so I am even having clients of mine complimenting how much better I look. So it feels nice, but anyway

She younger I think 38 and Korean. I am married to an Asian woman so when we first started the kids at school we all sorta said hi to each other I think maybe to try to be comfortable and not so much of outsiders to a tight nipped upper middle class Hudson valley NY community that we and they just moved to.

Nevertheless we have been friendly to each other, been on multiple play dates parties and we have discussed some of the not always easy parts of our marriages together.

She regularly texts and chats about ways to get our kids together and when she and her husband are together even if at a school function or at martial arts class they are never sitting together or holding hands or even talking with each other.

I did ask her one time if her and her husband were having issues and she said no and I almost flat out asked her if they were seeing other people but I got scared and held off.

I’m definitely interested and everytime we are by each other chatting without our spouses I can literally see the sexual frustration and attraction in her face and I’m pretty sure she can see it from me.

I just have a very strong feeling she is a hotwife and even some of the things her husband said sort of affirms it.

Like when she had a birthday party at Lego land and her husband asked if my son was going and I said no unfortunately because he is scared to sleep away from me and her husband said so rent a room next to my wife because he wasn’t going and she could probably use the help anyway. I sort of found that a little bit weird.

Anyway I know this is long and thank you for reading but I’d like to get some insight from both men and women on how I can approach her with this.