The question is the first guy she chatted with she started to have some feelings for. Actual feelings. I think it was mostly from everything being new. She broke it off and but he kept kinda messaging her like have a good day etc. I finally said she could chat again if she kept her emotions. She says she has but the chatting is escalating again.
I'm afraid if I shut it down again he will try and get her to go behind my back and keep chatting or to just simply delete the messages?
Any info would be helpful.
I agree with some of the above. I like to chat and like to have a connection, in fact, that’s one of the hottest parts for me. It’s buildup to the event and makes me feel extra sexy. That said, I have always been able to delineate sex from love/feelings. And if she can’t, you need to evaluate if this is a good fit for you both or at the very least, set some boundaries.
I also caveat that with, it’s also okay to develop friendships with outside partners, but not at the risk of sacrificing anything with your husband. To me, this lifestyle is supposed to accentuate your relationship/sex life. Doesn’t mean there can’t be a couple of bumps in the road, but you do need to communicate and make sure you both feel good about what’s happening. Also, diff between ENM and poly.
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