Me 24 and my fiancé 22 are together for more than 5 years now. For more than 3 year I have been heavily fantasising about hotwifing and similar stuff. So recently we had conversations where I told her that I’m very aroused of the idea of her sleeping with others. She find it hot and said that she would like to do it. Ofc she saw how horny I was while we had these conversations and she liked that. The thing is that she doesn’t know much about this lifestyle. She said she would like to sleep with some guys from the social platforms like instagram. Ot other guys that know her or us. And I don’t like this idea because I would like it to be private, with more stranger people. I want this for the sake of our relationship because I’m afraid that it won’t be healthy if this goes public. So, I’ll talk with her more about this and make sure that she understands what I mean. I’m okey with her sleeping with anyone she wants (old/young, black(I would prefer such guys lol) and etc.) except for the peanut that personally knows us.

The other thing is, that she thinks of this as a cheating. She likes cheating porn and she is aroused by this idea, but I really try to convince her that it’s not cheating. I’m afraid that I might lose her if she sleeps with others having such mindset.

What do you think of this situation? What should I do? Do I need to introduce her to this subreddit or show her more information about this lifestyle before she goes this path? Thank you!