It's so interesting reading the comments on this post. It's like the mindset is twisted. Some people in the ls choose to not be present while there wife goes and fucks another man. In normal life that would be cheating, but because you know about it it's not. They also may be fucking an ex or single guy. I've read about those ex's or single guys trying to develop relationships or have developed relationships with the wife and try shutting the husband out. But now, if a man who is married chooses to engage with a couple that is in the ls but his wife doesn't know about it he's now called a cheater. I mean it's like the pot calling the kettle black. I see the point but in reality these married men who's wife doesn't know about it are probably your safest bet especially when it comes to only wanting to use someone as a "sex toy" not develop a relationship with. There not going to try and do that because there wife doesn't know and they would like to keep it that way. He's just looking to help other couples and probably get more than he's getting at home. He definitely won't want a relationship. You as a couple knowing about it could technically use it against him if he was getting too close or acting like a dumbass. Essentially, you don't want anyone necessarily knowing what your doing in your relationship so maybe you shouldn't worry about what's going in his. If his wife ever found out and she had a way to contact you that could be an issue so just use fake names or fake profile, do it in different city than the one you live in and keep any personal information off any profile you have so there's no way you could be looked up. I mean we want to stay private so keep it private. Meanwhile enjoy the Ls. We've been in Vegas and trying to find a guy organically. There's men thar go on business trips there or are there for conferences. If we are out at a bar and having fun and my wife is getting along with someone she's potentially interested in fucking I'm not going to ask if that guy is married. That'd ruin my wife's confidence cause now she has to find another guy which may not happen and could be awkward if the guy is still hanging around. So I'd rather remain in ignorance and let my wife enjoy herself rather than playing 20 questions after she's met someone and ready to go.