I am writing this out for other men in a similar position - I hope this helps.

Background

I've been with my wife for over a decade, and she's always been naturally sexually open, so she's known about my kink from the start.

We've had moments of exploration in the past - but ultimately lacked the maturity in our relationship to pursue it.

We recently became first-time parents, so I had given up on the idea, and we started focusing on improving our mental health and relationship - and WOW, I was not expecting what would come.

I started valuing my wife more - to support her, encourage her, and be genuinely excited for her in ways I lacked in the past.

This kept snowballing, and now she's looking the hottest she's ever looked and feeling the best she's ever felt, which led to her opening up the idea to a bull we had spoken about in the past but never followed through with.

The Sex

At this point, we went from I don't know about all of this and feeling pushy in the past - to her leading and taking the initiative and WANTING it, which has been mutually exciting.

1st meetup, they went to the park, had a nice walk, and then she made out with him and blew him in the car super quick. She was impressed by his cock, and I could tell she wanted more.

2nd meetup, which I posted about, she woke up the horniest I've ever seen her in my life, and then she met up with him that night. Fucked him with the blinds wide open in the city, went two rounds, and busted inside of her both times. She came home, and I reclaimed her, which was AMAZING.

3rd meetup, we finally managed to get all three of us together yesterday, and WOW. The dynamic was insane because the bull and I both are avid gym goers, and we let her lead, but she was also being dominated by these two "hot guys," as she put it. He's slightly bigger, mostly just super girthy, and she still took him in her ass, so I was beyond impressed with how excited she's been about this. She also let me film which was not something she wasn't open to in the past so it was appreciated.

\All these meet-ups have been in the span of the last month*

Takeaway

You must have a solid relationship with your partner to make it a reality. We have come to learn how to communicate so well, to the point nothing is a surprise. In my head, I knew what I wanted; she knew her role, and the bull knew his.

There was no jealousy, and I'm beginning to learn more that "compersion" has much to do with this process. Because if you can genuinely be excited for your partner not only in the bedroom but also in real life - then you know you're going to have a great sex life and marriage, which I now see go 100% hand in hand.

I don't have all the answers, and this is the beginning of our process but I hope this helps if you need a different perspective.

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