First post-

My fiancé (46F) and I (45M) are just entering this world of erotic energy and I wanted to share my experience and learn a little more about expectations moving forward from some of the experienced couples out there.

I started the fantasy. I shared my thoughts by just letting go of caring what the outcome would be ie rejection. Fortunately, she was very open to the idea. I shared how I thought she was beautiful and wanted her to see herself through that same lens as she was struggling with her confidence. While I shared the thought of seeing her experience someone else while I watched would get me off I also felt like it would reinforce and open her sexual side. She was hesitant at first but it did make her very wet when she gave it thought and she always wanted to experience an MFM.

Early on I would buy her lingerie and sexy outfits and I would only casually bring up the idea. At some point she expressed to me how hot the idea was but she was scared what it would do to our relationship. I simply continued to show her love and support. We talked about the idea and what it would be like and lots of other hot things that lead to really passionate sex. She laid out a lot of the ground rules like no one local and only with you and the room (although she is past that now - and the sex from that was very hot).

Over time we would use the spicer app and I would insert my own questions for her to answer to gain her interest. I introduced the idea of her maybe starting a tinder account after she answered yes that she would be open to it. We started the tinder account together with her being in control. Her reassurance is that this is something we’re both doing. I reassure her that I’m the beneficiary (as is she) on all aspects.

We now have something lined up that we’re both looking forward to and it’s very exciting. Someone who seems experienced. I will say that I did experience some feelings when she was texting often and I didn’t know what she was texting about. She has always shared when asked. It’s great being in a position of being happy for her to be able to feel so empowered and free to explore. I’m experiencing this with her and the sexual energy is amazing. Sex like 3 times or more on the daily to the point where I had to tell her that I think my skin was going to burn off if we kept it up lol.

Anyway, looking forward to what is to come. Genuinely happy for her to be able to feel so free. The greatest benefit has been that new feeling towards one another like we had when we first met.

I’m just curious about what is to come - for her and myself. I’m not a fan of laying down a lot of rules outside of privacy and I often encourage her to do what she feels is right because of how worked up it makes her. I just want to make sure I keep the future experiences for her on the up and up so that she doesn’t have a bad one.

Anyway, thanks for reading. I enjoy a lot of the posters on here and I hope someone takes away something from my experience as I have from others.