My wife is good to play solo.

that said we do both put an effort to find guys or couples.

I’ve noticed a trend however. She tends to be more attracted to guys based on how he makes her feel, which 100% totally understand.

However when I look for a guy I’m looking more at what he has to offer and how he fits in our lifestyle. when i bring them up she is more of a “meh” and doesn’t really give it a chance.

The problem there is that the guys she meets are just attracted to her and not so much about what we are into. which is fine to a point. I want her to feel that excitement etc, but it can only go so far if they aren’t in it for the same reasons we are.

I don’t know if it’s because if I suggest someone it’s less exciting new and thrilling talking to them. because i know she enjoys the thrill of learning about someone new and building to the sexual energy.

my thoughts my rants. It’s all still fun and she doesn’t hide that I am involved. There are no secrets. Just trying to find a way to make the guys i suggest more interesting and exciting.