So my husband and I have been in this lifestyle for a few years now. I say that but just because we've been in the lifestyle doesn't mean we've been active in it. Anyways, we've recently gotten active in the lifestyle again, even met someone in a different state during vacation. Our sex life has been amazing I can't even tell you. It was possible and so much easier to be with someone else from out of state because we have such a small town. We kind of discussed the rules and we reevaluate anytime there's someone I find of Interest or if there's someone that is uncomfortable with. One of the main things is that my husband likes to remain anonymous. Granted it does make things a bit more difficult for me and smaller town, but not impossible. It just takes quite a bit more effort from my side. So anyways I have a co-worker who is unashamedly into me. He's decently good looking, he's pretty sweet sometimes. But he's like never touched me or anything like that, he's respectful. I think he's funny and I feel attractive around him. So that brings me to my question; is it a bad idea to open up this lifestyle to my coworker? My biggest concern is that you never know if you can trust people to keep your secrets. At one point my husband said that it would be fine, and at another point he said it was probably a bad idea because we work together. So I'm reaching out to others who have been in this lifestyle longer. Who know the things. Does anyone had any experience of choosing a coworker as their bull? I know I've read some stories where like when the husband leaves town the bull will come and take care of the wife kind of thing... So I know full fledged bull/wife relationships are a thing. Or is it just a terrible idea? Any advice or insight is welcome.