My wife and I (34/36) have been dabbling with this lifestyle since 2019. Each time we decide we want to find somebody it becomes quite a tedious and overwhelming process I.e. 200 messages on Reddit. We have used tinder and Reddit mainly. Tinder we find a lot of guys are a little put off by the dynamic and don’t understand. Our issue with Reddit besides the sifting through “hi” messages is that we have also been flaked on numerous times. The question we have is, which sites or apps are you using that you have had the most success on and how do you use them? We recently signed up for the free SLS, AFF and Kasidie and also debating if those are worth paying for. Thank you all in advance!