Okay, so I have the house to myself tonight, so I figured I’d make a post to hopefully clear some stuff up regarding the HW lifestyle. I see a lot of questions posted on here, and receive a lot of questions just in general from people that know. My husband and I have been in the lifestyle for over ten years. Questions never get any less redundant.

How do I bring this up to my wife?

Nobody in this community knows your wife. Only you do. Without a full on description of her likes, dislikes, turn ons, turn offs, and past sexual experiences, this is a question only you can answer. Annnddddd it’s your lucky day, because you are probably the most likely to be able to get allllllllll of those answers out of her. More than half you should already know, and if you don’t, man is it time to learn.

The point I’m trying to make here is that every body is receptive to different things and different approaches. What works for Daphne, may not work for Velma. Shaggy may have a more open relationship with Velma than Fred does to Daphne. Daphne might not want to jump into bed with Shaggy. Maybe Velma would go to town on Fred, but he’s too arrogant and she doesn’t get off on traps.

Trust me when I say it’ll take time. It took us a year of discussing it before we agreed to do it. Even then we started with baby steps. If she’s on board right away and she wasn’t always like this, then stop and step back, because being too eager can be a sight of unhappiness. In all accounts, use your better judgment. Don’t push it. Be patient. You’ll get your answer. It’s a scary leap for most.

Is your bulls cock bigger than your husbands/is your husbands cock too small/Does your husband not know how to satisfy you?

These are all essentially the same question. And I know for a damn fact that others, both women and men, get the same. From my own experiences in this lifestyle, these questions come from the extremely naive, the overly horny, or the ones that think the actors and actresses in porn movies are actually that character that they play.

Side Note: I’ll be covering third party terminology and the dreaded “C” word in a bit, so I won’t spend a load of time on it here.

Most reputable thirds that I’ve met didn’t have these questions. I’ll get an occasional “how big is he?”, For reference to compare. But that’s about it. Respect is key. Remember it’s our marriage. And trust me he satisfies me in more ways than one.

What do you wear on a date?

I’m reluctant to answer this one because it’s so stupid, but if it saves me future pain, I’ll briefly humor it.

Listen I’ve gone out wearing a tight black dress that hugged the shit out of my butt, lifted my boobs, and showed my legs in the best way possible. I’ve also gone out in trashy leopard print. I’ve gone out in sweat pants and a Leaf’s jersey.

Point is, there’s no HW dress code. We don’t have a monthly newsletter or weekly meetings. If you’re going to a club, dress nicer. If you’re going to a bar, you can be more casual. It’s literally the same as anywhere else you go.

Im 18 and looking to get into the lifestyle. I have experience.

These make me want to puke. I won’t stay ion this ine for obvious reasons. Touch some grass.

Bulls/Alphas

These are two terms I don’t like. If you claim to be an alpha, I won’t even remotely humor you. Bulls, tend to go more with the C word, but I do know some active HW couples that use this term. It’s cool if it’s what you use, but I find it to be a bit off putting.

That alpha BS you see in porn doesn’t fly in the actual lifestyle. In fact, that will more than likely get you banned from LS parties and have your name ruined in this community. Not to mention it’s just downright disrespectful. Remember, you are a guest in my bed, you’re a guest in my body, and you’re a guest in our marriage. We’re going to have a lot of fun, but do be 0 respectful to the couples that are allowing you to do this.

The infamous C word.

A word loathed so much that this sub won’t even allow me to type it in my post.

So I have zero issues with the C community. As long as it is consensual and everyone communicates boundaries and such, you do you. I do know some couples that incorporate some of this into their play, and that’s completely fine. We’ve tried this ourselves, and it was the most awkward , yet humorous thing we’ve ever done.

But to break it down a little easier, it’s not the same thing as HW. I’d say they are close neighbors, but like all good neighbors should do, knock before you come over.

Whats the sluttiest thing you’ve ever done?

I’d say have sex with someone that isn’t my my husband. Pretty much everything I do with a third is the same thing I’ve done with my husband. It’s just different.

Do you ever catch feelings for a third?

Maybe feelings for his penis. Seriously though, it does happen with some couples. I’ve seen a few instances. It’s tragic and heartbreaking. Boundaries need to be set. If you’re having problems communicate them right away. Don’t be afraid to stop something that’s bothering you.

Okay, there are more points I want to make, but I have exhausted my thumbs in this post . I may go further at a later date, but I said what I wanted to say for tonight in this specific part.

Open to criticism and alternate viewpoints. I love a good engaging discussion.

Also, while questions are a discussion point, what is your favorite post sex snack? Mine is either poutine or bananas.