My husband wants me to turn up the heat before meeting with our next single guy. Some background on me: I’m a 52F, I’m an introvert and I tend to be quiet and reserved especially when first meeting someone. I also tend to hold back because even though we have done this more than once I have trouble showing excitement about it in front of my husband. I know it turns him on but I know he can also feel jealous of the attention I am getting. I think subconsciously this is in the back of my mind and I have trouble letting him know exactly what I’m feeling. I stay reserved about it. I want to let go more and release my inner slut. I know she’s there, I can bring her out with my husband.

We do MFMs, I do not play solo. With the last few guys I have started talking to them solo and just showing the messages to my husband. I try to get the guys to ramp up the flirting but only with a little success.

I’m looking for more advice, ideas, etc. from both men and women. From the men: what do you like to hear from your wife or see her do in the lead up and preparation for meeting a single guy? From the women: any advice for letting go and bringing out my inner slut? What do you do to prepare for a meet up that gets you really openly excited?