About 4 years ago I was honest with my wife of 2 years at the time about my fantasy of wanting to see with other men. She entertained the idea and went to a swinger club somewhat regularly but tested it almost as a strip club... watch , get turned on, head home and get dirty. However a couple times she did make out with a guy there but that was as far as it went.

Fast forward to about a year and a half ago, she texts me while I'm at work " do you still want .e tk fuck someone else? I might have someone." This someone is a work acquaintance not a direft coworker but they see each other regulalry.

So we moved forward and one njght he got a hotel room. She went and i was racked with that electric anticipation waiting for detsils. She texted me that they had sex twice but would tslk to me more in the morning.

Once she called in the morning she explained it lasted about 5 minutes total and she was nowhere near cumming. He didn't bring his A game or at least it wasn't up to par. She liked the guy and things glowed naturally between them so she was still willing to move forward to possibly make him the regular.

So on his birthday they planned to meet up and she was like " ill probably just suck the shit out of his dick as a present." They met up and he explained he couldn't see her anymore because be wants a relationship with her and that can't happen.

She was devastated. After all that wr don't really touch on the subject anymore balecause I feel like she is now completely closed off. I know as a man that we uust as women are not all the same and that this lifestyle is a lot like the vanilla world in that it can be a challenge to find what you're looking for

Sorry for the novel but I guess I'm just wondering how do I bring it up again or do I even? How can I try to get that interest back. Suggestions from men and women welcome.