Hello everyone, mid 30’s couple here. Not all too experienced but really excited to see where this takes us.

We had a guy recently join us, twice. Only the 2nd guy we have done this with. The 1st time, we could tell he was nervous (as were we). After about 30 seconds of her going down on him he finished in her mouth. I wasn’t even undressed yet. We really went out of our way to make him feel okay and kind of turned it into a threesome with her continuing to give him head while I had sex with her. He didn’t get hard again

He’s super cool so we decided to give it another shot and this time he lasted a little longer, maybe 2ish minutes before he came on her. Again, he hung out while we had sex. He tried jerking off to get hard again but couldn’t. No shame, still we tried being really supportive.

This isn’t really what we want so we know we need to find another another guy. We just aren’t really sure how to approach the topic, since he has asked us to hang out again. We don’t want to ghost him, we also just want to make sure we are being sensitive to the situation since we both really like him.

Any advice??