I noticed for my own wife that exhibitionism was the 'gateway' for her expressing interest in the lifestye. For us, it started with me encouraging her to wear more and more risky outfits out- and complimenting her profusely whenever she did. She then confided in me that she liked the idea of trying some more-risky places where we could get potentially caught (not just like car sex. This evolved into like sex in changing rooms and by the window in hotels).

I felt that was the easiest way to then make the jump- I simply asked one day while we were going at it what she would do if we did actually get caught. Given her current extreme horniness when I asked, I wasn't surprised when she said she wouldn't stop. I then upped the ante by asking what if he tried to join in.

Since then, I've fully come clean about the hotwife kink and now we both are really into the idea- but we are both careful people so haven't made the full jump yet. I was curious if anyone else kicked off the conversation with a similar topic- and also hear some feedback on how you initially told the wife?