So my wife spends a weekend a few times a year with one guy who frequently visits our city for work. In the 18 months we’ve been doing this they’ve had maybe 8 weekends in total together (some shorter one night stays also). He has just invited her to go away with him in mid-August to south of France for a week. They would be staying at one of his friend’s villas and there would be a group of friends of his joining (both men and women). This would be the longest amount of time they’ve spent together consecutively. It isn’t a long flight (about 90 minutes), but this is a massive step and she’s a little unsure about how I’ll feel about this. She said she does want to go and thinks it will be exciting to be with him, but also to meet new people as well. This is almost like a parallel life of hers, so I do want to give her this. I find it kind of erotic as well, but it’s going to be a big step forward in the lifestyle for us. They’ve talked about how he plans to introduce her to his friends and he’s going to present her as the women he is seeing. They did meet years ago professionally, so there’s a natural story if people ask how they met. What we are not sure of however is whether the topic of her being married with a family should come up…I guess if it does I’m ok with it and I wouldn’t want them to go out of their way to hide it. He and his friends sound pretty open minded based on what she tells me about them, it’s just all new territory for us as this is the first time she’s kind of going “public” with it. Or she can just hide it and not bring it up. I guess most people wouldn’t ask “are you married”! I’m probably overthinking it, but we’ve made sure to keep this part of our life private and I wouldn’t want this getting out for either of us. She’s also been very careful and is concerned about the same thing. If she doesn’t go it will be for this reason. Open to thoughts and perspectives, particularly from occasional hot wives similar to my wife. Remember this isn’t a major part of our lives, just a few times a year. Maybe not worth the risk of getting outed by accident.