In short we had an open relationship and then had kids and then Covid hit so we have been out of the game for ages and now we have more to lose by not being safe and overly cautious.

We’ve had an ongoing dialogue over a few years and last night she expressed a few more concerns. She doesn’t want to hook up with a random stranger she meets. I don’t want that either. Although I love the idea of her going out with her tits popping out and being hit on, I don’t feel comfortable with her fucking someone. But we both agreed that can openly talk about that like a fantasy because it’s hot to imagine.

Anyway, she said she could see herself with a complete stranger who is respectful, charming, and can ensure that he’s tested and clean. She also said she wants me in the room to not only enjoy it but to make sure she’s safe.

We talked it out a bit more and I said that I might not be comfortable being in the room right away but we could figure something out. Like FaceTime and I’m in the building, or in an adjoining room, etc. she agreed and said she likes that idea.

We kept hashing out details and she was not only receptive but kept envisioning herself in the situation and really seemed to like the idea of being taken by another guy. I then told her about aftercare and how important it is for not only her but me as well because it’s a lot for both of us. We’ve got decades of societal norms being broken so we’ll feel all of the emotions when all is said done. She really had a weight lifted from her shoulders after that.

Anyway, I am not going to rush into a lifestyle website or app right away. We will talk more about this outside of the bedroom. But she made it clear that if we can find someone we trust and also someone who is into her curvy body style (with a few extra pounds), then she’s 100% down.

So fellas, be patient, have an ongoing open dialogue, constantly reassure her that it can remain a fantasy (and mean it), and she might get to a level of comfort where it actually happens.

Although I’m going to be patient, I am giddy that we will be moving forward with this!