My wife and I have a great relationship. I have a hotwife fetish, which I revealed to my wife six years ago when we had been together for one year. Since then, we fantasized about it during sex, and after a few months, it led to a foursome on a vacation in Thailand with an acquaintance of ours and a Thai woman who was paid for it. My wife is bisexual and mainly played with the Thai woman, but she also engaged in sexual activities with our acquaintance. The main reason my wife didn't get on top of him was that he couldn't maintain an erection due to alcohol. She really wanted to, though. A year later, a friend of mine from another country came to visit us and stayed at our home for a few days. He invited a girl over for a joint evening, and after some wine, we had another foursome. This time, too, my wife focused more on the woman, and my friend only performed oral sex on my wife. There was some uncertainty at the time about whether my friend had my permission to have sex with my wife, and afterward, my wife said she would have been open to it but didn't know if it was allowed. I was disappointed. Now, nearly four years later, nothing similar has happened again. We now have two children, one who is 3.5 years old, and the youngest just turned 1. Some time ago, I told my wife that I wanted to give her the freedom to have sex with other men, but she expressed no interest in it. I also suggested going to a swingers club, but she refused, saying maybe in the future when the children are grown up. I respect her decision and abide by it. However, lately, she has been wearing revealing lingerie, and this morning her thong was visible above her pants when she bent down before going to work. I made a comment that she shouldn't bend down too often, and she laughed and said, "Well, at least I'll make those boring office workers happy." Are these signals? If so, how should I proceed? It's important to note that my wife was born in my Western european country, but her parents are from Hong Kong, and she has also inherited some of that culture, including shyness and not to talkative without having some booz. I would appreciate your advice.