Mrs. and I have been playing in the hotwife (more stag /vixen) realm for about a year. It’s a part-time pursuit for us. She’s played with 2 different guys a total of 4-5 times. I’ve always been present. Everything has gone really smoothly…no real hiccups at all.

One of the guys is what she would consider a friend. He’s out of state, but the friendship started via a professional setting. We’ve known him about a year. First things first, this guy is safe. My marriage is safe with this guy. You’ll just have to trust me. We’ve been married 25 years, this guy is significantly younger…it’s side entertainment for all of us.

They text, talk on the phone, occasionally FT….90% of it is professional related/friendship…the other part is sharing pics/videos/playful flirting/dirty talk. She shows me all the texts, pics, etc. It’s part of the fun for both of us…it turns both of us on…she DMs screenshots during the day…We dirty talk about it later that night.

So…we played with him about 2 months ago. I was there, they had sex for the first time…it was a blast. We all hung out for about an hour afterwards just talking.

We’re talking about him coming to town later next week for a work engagement. Don’t want to reveal too many personal details, but they would be working together during the day with other people around, but then also have downtime alone in a private space. We acknowledged today that we need to have a logistics conversation about whether them playing without me there (almost certainly not sex) is something we both want or are willing to do.

The thought of it makes me very horny but also gives me a little angst. I think she probably would enjoy the freedom and the excitement of it, and I honestly want that for her. I just have to make sure I can handle not being there and getting the details and play by play after the fact. Video is very much a possibility, so that’s a consideration.

The other option is for them to just enjoy the build up during the day, make out/kiss a little, and then I meet them later for the actual meetup.

Any thoughts or considerations?