We have spoken about this lifestyle for a few years now and our first experience has been agreed upon after much communication. She wants the first time for her to be alone as we have been together 14 years and she has only ever had sex with me and feels the first time for her to get comfortable maybe best. Around a year ago to show her how serious i was because i felt she still had doubts as she thought of me as a protective and jealous partner and was kind of surprised i would be ok with it. I had an old friend to which i always thought she had a crush on as they got on very well and there was a time she used to txt him often in our early stages of the relationship. My old friend and i had a fall out years back and still only talk in passing. She had always maintained how much she hated him if ever he popped up in conversation or in person. She denied ever seeing him in a sexual way back then. I decided to ask her…what about my old mate would you fuck him? (As we were talking about people we knew) before she answered i made it clear that if she would that i would 100% be ok with it infact be happy as i only want her being with someone she wants and pursues herself. She was shocked but had a cheeky smile and said… really?? You would be ok with him?? I said yes if u want him im on board. She was hesitant but said yes as friends of hers had said he was really good in bed and she has always been curious. She then admitted when prompted that she used to have a crush on him but never told me as things like this was never discussed and thought id have been mad, but yeh she defo would fuck him and is now asking me to befriend him to have him around more to see if she gets a vibe from him. He is the only person we know she wants to do it with. Apart from him it will be one night stands if she meets someone on a night out or with me present if we arrange to meet a 3rd. With my old friend he wont know and will be under the impression me and my Mrs are on a break.