Wife and I have had several mfm with 2 diff thirds that have since fizzled out and we've been keeping our eye out for a new guy. 38 she's 32. Previous guys started organically where we were already hanging and partying together and things just happened. Now we're searching. Think we've found a great candidate. single, somewhat recently out of a longer relationship probably real thirsty and hopefully clean, seems mature, friends with but not too close,etc..

We all play the same sport together, she's on his team and we've all been friends up there for a while, strictly friends at this place never have hung out outside of the sports complex. Wife wants me to feel it out on my own so it doesn't get weird between them if it doesn't have to. Looking for tips on how to approach this. I'm up there sometimes without her so was gonna have a chat over a beer.

Do people find its best to just be straight forward? Because it gives me a lot of anxiety and looking for alternatives.

Thought about casually showing nude pics to gauge reaction or talking about her mfm past kind if thing. Or should I just buck up and come straight out with it.

Anyone have a similar experience or suggestions?

Thanks