Seems that every so often this needs to be outlined and reiterated so here’s the 2023 version of

The Rules Round Here:

No locations: There’s no need to include your location in a post. If you’re looking to meet like minded people, for dates or whatever, please use r/hotwiferequests. This includes vacation posts and asking about dating apps in specific locations.

Be respectful of how couples engage in the hotwife lifestyle. Simple enough. Some folks are dating, some are married, some are new and some have seen some shit. Everyone has something of value to contribute and should be met with respect.

No swinger(s) content: This is not a subreddit for swingers. There are several that are specific to the lifestyle, please use those. This isn’t for stories, questions or discussion for couples who play with other couples or to ask about swing clubs, vacations, etc. It’s getting weird so please stop with the swinging content.

Posts that call out couples, people, submitters, will be removed. There will be zero tolerance for doxxing or revealing information about other redditors. If you’re having an issue with a specific user you’re welcome to message me via mod mail and fill me in and appropriate steps can be taken but posting drama for drama’s sake aint’ the move.

Refrain from posting including tricking, convincing, or any from of non consent dialogue. Consensual non consent, surprise encounters and the like will be removed. This lifestyle is about open communication and honesty and you should be reading up before posting if you don’t grasp those concepts.

No hotwife challenge posts. There’s a subreddit for that. It is not this one.

No posts focused on race, specifically bbc. Including but not limited to posting about blacked out porn. I do not want to hear it, see it, read it. Posts will be deleted. I understand that many people have a mental link between hotwifing and Black men, I do not care. Take your racism elsewhere because my Black ass will delete posts, discussions and questions real fast. If, for some reason, you have a deep need to discuss race there’s an entire internet out there to do so, it won’t be here.

No cheating posts. This isn’t a lifestyle, kink or fetish that is about cheating, quite the opposite so no posts focused on cheating, adultery, etc .

No cuckold posts. I banned the word in this subreddit and some folks still post repeatedly about it. It’s not cute or clever, it’s annoying. There are appropriate subreddits for that lifestyle this isn’t one of them. Keep it hotwife focused. This includes any posts about humiliation, being caged, etc.

No attention or karma whoring posts. Self explanatory. It’s annoying and transparent and waters down the subreddit for folks who come here to engage with life minded people. Content creators who try to steer folks to their content/profile/post history will have posts and comments removed.

No fake stories. No way to verify this but it’s a pointless endeavor and you’ll be called out by the community. If posts that are obviously fakes get reported, they’ll be taken down.

Respectful speech: It’s easy to keep it kind so please do. Referring to people without std’s as clean, not cool. STD’s and STI’s have enough stigma and as a sex positive community let’s be adults and use the correct verbiage to talk about adult topics. No reason to shame or hurt people. Keep in mind every couple plays differently so please be respectful and kind. Meet people where they are, give em the energy they give out.

No posts asking for tributes, requests, and the like. Use the appropriate subreddits for that please. Asking for people to dm you, text you, find your profile, find your socials, join your whatever …full stop. Posting here for the purpose of getting people to private message you will get your post removed.

There’s no need to verify as there are no longer photo or video posts welcome here.

Reasons for getting banned from r/hotwifelifestyle:

Repeatedly breaking any of these guidelines/rules

Posting self promo of any kind

Posting photos/videos/links to paid content

As always, I’m open and eager to make sure the community as a whole is happy so feel free to let me know if I missed anything. These are somewhat repetitive and the sidebar also includes the rules for this sub so apologies for that but one can never be too clear. As you can tell (I hope) the guidelines here are to ensure this subreddit stays a place for folks to share experiences as well as get advice and find others who relate to the ups and downs of this lifestyle. The rules are meant to make sure this subreddit doesn’t get overrun like many of the hotwife focused subs tend to over time.