Although I'm not very new to the lifestyle, so far, I had never picked a guy just by myself and initiated everything myself.

This Friday at work (I work at a gym), I was just hanging out with a colleague, and he had been subtly hitting on me for a while now. He was sexy but he wasn't being overly obvious because he knew I am married.

While hanging out, after he gave me another compliment, I finally told him she should do something together. He was taken aback, and asked " like what?" I told him... "like... your place maybe?" He was more surprised than before, but he played along.

His volume went down and said "well, I live with X, do you mind him knowing we got home together?" I nodded. He thought for a second and hesitantly asked, "what if I got us a room?"

I said why not. All in all, I knew my husband wouldn't object to it, but I didn't want how this guy would react to the lifestyle we have. I texted my husband what was going on, just to keep him in the loop.

When we went to the hotel, we first had dinner at a small restaurant downstairs, and then got upstairs to our room. We had sex once. When we were done, he asked "do you need to go home?" Meaning my husband may get suspicious. I hesitantly told him about the understanding we have, and that was hard, because this was actually the first time I needed to explain it after I went rogue.

He was surprised and anxious for a while. I told him, my husband can come over too if that's alright. It was still early. Let's just say, the night was fun.