Ok. Brand new to this sub, so I’ll introduce myself. I’m the male half of a couple. I’m 45 she’s 40. Very happily Married for 21 years and in the LS for about 2.5 years.

This all started about 3 years ago because I wanted to share her, watch her with another guy, join in, do hot 3 way porno stuff with my super sexy wife. So, I proposed the idea, we talked about it a lot. She told me if she ever did, it would have to be with someone she at least “liked”. And I completely understood that. We came to some agreements and entered into our new adventure. And honestly it has been amazing. We have had a ton of fun with some great guys.

Some of our original agreements, thoughts, ideas, rules even have been a little fluid over the past couple of years. She really enjoys the solo play, which was something in the beginning we never thought was going to be a thing. I get it, fully understand that part and her wanting that (plus, the reclaim is awesome). And, it has also moved now into her wanting more of a “boyfriend” vibe. I kind of get that part, but maybe not as much. But I do understand to a point. I mean she has also opened up my side for me to play also which was never a thing in the beginning. I think fluidity in this situation is a good thing as long as everyone is always on the same page.

To the point of my post tho. I guess I have always had more “rules” for her than she has ever had for me. To be clear, I love to know, hear, see all the details of anything she does relating to “others”. On the other hand she does not want any details of anything I do, other than knowing it’s going to happen (no secrets).

But anytime she wants to meet someone, she feels like she “needs to ask me” instead of just “telling me she has plans”. I don’t really see a huge difference. We are pretty much at the point when she asks, I say yes. Sure, there is usually a discussion, but she gets her way most of the time.

I guess my main thing is, giving up that freedom to just let her “make her own decisions” (in her words). Which I feel like I already do. But I guess I technically don’t. I dunno. Just looking for some fun Reddit discussions about this. Or maybe just needed to get it all out here. Thanks for reading.