I can see this going sideways quickly if she is not included on the planning, but he is convinced that with the number of times they have discussed the fantasy of making him watch her with another man she will be completely on board.

Everything else checks out. He's paying for my flight and giving me a room to stay in at their home. But if this goes badly, I would be in another state with nothing to do for three days.

Am I overthinking this? Do wives like being surprised with a new male? So far my experience has been planned and communicated with both parties. I'm open to new things and trying this out... just would love to know that this is a normal ask of husbands and wives. Thanks.