I fantasize about it everyday, but I'm afraid to tell my girlfriend/wife/significant other.

- most guys

My girlfriend/wife/significant other knows, but isn't quite ready to take the next step yet... what do we do?

- most guys (with their girlfriend/wife/significant other)

Why would my boyfriend/husband/significant other want to share me if he "loves" me?

- most girls

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Hi guys, I'm Elena Cruz 🍍

My boyfriend Jay and I have recently begun to explore the lifestyle ^{(boyfriend's idea}) and we love everything about it! If you'd like to know more about our story, read my about my relationship here and how we got started.

Ever since we started to share our experiences and post our videos, my DMs have been flooded with questions like "I fantasize about it everyday, but I'm afraid to tell my girlfriend/wife/significant other" or "My girlfriend/wife/significant other knows, but isn't quite ready to take the next step yet... what do we do?" It makes sense that something so taboo in our society is hard to do, which is why I think that the fear of judgment and the lack of communication BECAUSE of the fear of judgment (even if it's coming from your partner), are the two main reason some people might never get to fully live out their fantasies.

In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth ^{lol jk hehe}... in the beginning, when Jay (my boyfriend) first told me he wanted to see me with another man he caught me by complete surprise! SOOOO many thoughts ran through my head (keep in mind he'd just crossed the 'will she judge me' part) and was now crossing the communication part, and to be quite honest I did judge him. After all, if he "loves" me how could it be possible that he would want to see another man take me? I was confused, what girlfriend wouldn't be after their boyfriend just told them they fantasize about other men fuck them all the time. Of course, this was all before we had the chance to communicate what we were thinking...

for example, I wanted to know if he truly loved me? I wasn't so sure now because my whole life society has taught us that monogamy is the correct way to show love, loyalty right?

wrong

Ever since I communicated my insecurities about his fantasy and he realized that by simply saying "yes, I still love you" wasn't going to be enough for me... he has communicated his love using his actions instead, showing me day in and day out, treating my like a QUEEN 💅🏻 that he does indeed love me. It has also deepened our bond and strengthened our relationship... not just because of the sex but because of the communication we now have, the deeds we do for each other in order to further express our love and gratitude.

Everything I never knew about the lifestyle is everything I love, like how much it would connect the two of us, or how we now have a relationship completely free of jealousy issues and also free of communication issues! My boyfriend now knows now that I don't judge him for his fantasies, or anything else for that matter moving forward.

Oh, and the SEX!!! Sex with my boyfriend was great! I didn't think I needed anything else because he was satisfying me needs sexually, but after being fucked my so many different men in this lifestyle and living so many great experiences, I wouldn't change it for the world.