Where to start, I suppose the obligatory this is a new account because this is a new-ish lifestyle for us.

I (42m) and my wife (40f) have discussed this for years. We've been together for 20 years now, so when I say years...well. We dabbled a bit with swinging early on but nothing ever felt right. As time went on, life happened, we just focused on our fantasies until recently things finally fell into place.

My wife has always loved the idea, but wasn't sure about the reality. I have always been certain, but wouldn't push her to do anything she wasn't ready for. Recently a mutual friend started being a bit more flirty than usual with her via text, and happened to be in town, so with a little encouragement she surprised him at his hotel.

She's never felt she could play solo, a lot of reasons, not the least of which being certain I really was okay with it. But things fell into place and she ended up spending about 2 hours with him before coming home. She enjoyed everything about her experience, while it wasn't all she'd hoped (he was a bit in shock and couldn't finish in her... and yes, we're well aware of the risks and precautions, it's just something we both really want), she still got to come home and be reclaimed, and the connection we had was mind blowing. Now she knows how good it will be, and is looking forward to her next adventure, and a joint adventure in the near future.

Odd thing is, withing a couple of days of this, things were brought up to her in chats with other people quite unexpectedly. Soon she may have a few guys to play with.