It's been a couple months since I learned the hard way that hotwifing isn't all fun and games

My wife and I are still separated although I moved back in the house and she leaves for her dad's house 3 nights a week. We operate as best friends/parents for the kids.

Today we had our first session at couples therapy. As I already knew her having sex with other guys magnified every crack in her relationship. Especially the bonding she did with one of the bulls, later her affair, did a lot of harm.

She also realised we've been together for 10 years and she hasn't been single since she was 17. The question "is this all there is in life?" Eventually messed her up. She wants to explore what else life has to offer her.

The affair is done, she knows it was a huge mistake but also the damage is done. The experience has put a lot of stress on the both of us.

I've learned a lot about attachment in relationships, communition and overall human psychology over the months and I'm pretty confident we can salvage our marriage. If she wants to that is.

My biggest take aways for now:

• sex and communication leads to bonding and eventually relationships.
• new relationship energy is real. Very real. It's hard resist.
• your attachment style from your childhood defines how you behave in relationships and thus also how you handle the emotions the hotwife LS throws at you. Regardless how "solid" your marriage is.

One thing is for sure: the genie won't go back into the bottle.

Questions? Feel free to ask.