I just want to throw this out there. I've been in a lifestyle for a while. And even a version of it for a while before I got married.

The very best advice I can give couples who are starting out is...

FIrst communicate communicate communicate. She has different fantasies then he knows about. Or even understands. Give her a safe place to say whatever, she's into interracial, she has daddy issues and wants an older guy, she fantasizes about a young man that she can teach. Point is it may very completely from the husband's hw porn infused brain. The secret is giving her the safe place to tell you the truth and let you know without judgment.

Second, even if you guys are going the route of a boyfriend or longer-term situation, start slow, let it simmer, let her communicate with him a lot and let it build up, don't rush into your second time, the couple should enjoy it for a while in fantasy talk and play, that way you can get ideas about things you might want to do differently, again safe space to talk about what you like and didn't like, what parts of the envelope you might want to push, don't rush into your second one, just keep flirting and talking to your third and building up. I for one love the build up. I love after the first visit burning for her sweet married flesh. Don't rush.

Finally, aftercare. Regardless of your dynamic, the couples that are successful, no that this is about the couple and not the bull. As much as during the scene, where I might get maximum attention and depending upon the dynamic be treated as the most important part, I'm not. Thank each other, fuck like rabbits, or whatever it is you do, make it known that each of you enjoyed it because the other one was involved.

Being somewhat of a sadist, I got into this from the Dom sub lifestyle. In clubs, which are just really groups of people who are vetted and meet privately together, I first-hand got to see husbands bring their wives to me for pleasure in ways they did not want to or could not perform. Or sometimes, he wanted to see it as opposed to do it or she felt the same way. It's hard in a marriage, which is built on so many powerful and beautiful emotions to reduce it to flesh. That's where I come in. And that is where I learned about Aftercare and learned how it is applicable in this lifestyle also. Remind her she is beautiful. Remind her that you love giving her the sexual power normally not available to women. Remind him that you appreciate him for letting you explore.

Finally, respect your Bulls time and effort. If you trust him and he is good know that he has your best inter8est as a couple at heart