Shared account here with 49 fiance. Not speaking for her or putting cart before horse. We are not in the lifestyle and all the definitions, restrictions, implications and expectations that come with that word. I first mentioned the notion to her a month or 2 ago and was told 'not gonna happen '. As expected. For all the reasons hundreds of others have detailed on here.

But she has connected with someone through text. Started light. Friendly banter. Flirting. Harmless pic here and there. Lots of omg's when she reads certain msgs from him. Lots of smiles. Lots of lip biting. Sharing what they say. G rated pics. Then today a couple more R rated pics to him, which she never thought she'd do. Seemingly looking forward to his texts.

Her and I have definitely lightly discussed them actually getting together irl. Lightly. What would it feel like. What would it look like. How would it feel after. Could we actually do it. She still wonders if it would bother me after. I say no. I can say everything that's happened so far and her stepping over some of her shyness has been exciting. Sexy. And she doesn't quite get it still except that I've been consistently ok with everything so far.

He's several states away so the logistics of it happening are tricky. Will update with progress or failure reports. I still love leaving her love notes when I go to work in am. 😉