Decided to post from a new account I just created to remain anonymous to those who know me. I like this subreddit the most, as it’s not filled with phony pics and is all about discussion. I know this subject of solo dates has been talked about on here a lot! Wife and I have been together for quite some time, and in the lifestyle for about 5 or 6 years. Mostly couple swaps, but also MFM and FM solo dates for her. We play very randomly as we don’t let it consume our lives. Because of recent work schedules I’ve decided it was ok for her to find a “playmate” which she of coarse did rather quickly. Knowing she’s having sex with another guy is definitely a turn on for me. However it’s come to my attention that they have been messaging each other quite frequently lately. Like every morning, throughout the day, and a goodnight text. They know what’s going on in each others daily lives, and exchange clothed pics of each other through out the day. He’s married, but going through a rough patch and unsure of his marital future. They remain together for the kids. We live some distance from him and they have only seen each other a handful of times. Yet I don’t feel comfortable with all the messaging back and forth. It’s to the point that I’m having a hard time sleeping at night. Wife assures me that nothing more is going on. I’ve let her know how I feel, and she’s let me know that it’s something she’d like to continue as she does have fun with him. I’ve never been the controlling type as I feel you can’t really tell someone what they can and can’t do. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? Any advice will be greatly appreciated!