My fiance (26F) and I (30M) are finally going ahead with this. There's a younger (23M) that she has been talking to and is really interested in. Since this is our first time, it's important to me that whoever she's with is someone who will not be in the picture for a long time. He's a student in her city and will soon be graduating and leaving. I'm not scared of her developing feelings for him. But it helps me mentally to know that a guy who has dominated her sexually with my knowledge is far from us. They plan to get away for the weekend and she'll update me with a summary of the events as well as audio and video clips.

Right now, I'm quite excited to see it all play out since it has been a fantasy of ours for a very long time now. However I'm also pretty nervous and I worry about feeling like the lesser/weaker man once I hear her describe the sex (and potential orgasms) or play the audio/video clips. I know it'll be a huge turn on for me because watching someone I care for turns me on. But I don't know how to handle the feelings of inadequacy that may come up after. So how do I deal with thoughts that the other guy is better than me or that my fiance will forever remember him as the guy who gave her amazing sex etc? And how do I prevent these feelings as well as the nervousness from giving you performance anxiety? Thanks.