Okay I find it unsettling that I made this profile for the pure reason of writing this post. This is coming from my most recent date and reading a lot of Reddit posts regarding the lifestyle, I feel that something very important needs to be addressed.

First, I'll start with what happened. I've been talking with this one couple for about a month. They finally wanted to meet up, but under the condition that she gets DP'd by me and another bull. That's not something I'm all that into, but I've been trying to get with her, and my wife persuaded me to just go for it.

Couple was really nice. Very loving. Not the poster child for people you would see in the LS. The other bull, took me a couple of minutes of talking to him before I realized he was just a ddouche.

Things started off as you would expect. This guy looked directly at the husband while grabbing a handful of her ass and said "you're wife isn't even going to love you after tonight."

That kind of stuff is okay if that's what the couple is into. They didn't make any mention of verbal stufflike that, so we're left with guessing whether or not that was okay.

As things progressed this guy started pounding this woman and the whole time he kept looking at her husband and making obscene gestures and comments. He didn't seem into it.

Finally the husband had enough and got up to open the bedroom door. He told the guy to leave and that he was feeling uncomfortable. The guy didn't stop doing his wife, but when she saw it wasn't an act she pulled away.

This guy then had the audacity to say "don't invite people over to fuck your wife if you can't handle it."

Thats when I had enough. I told him to shut up or I would fuck his world up. He got tough with me for a second and started mouthing off, but as soon as I got up to confront him he grabbed his things and left, saying that he didn't have time for it.

Thankfully the evening wasn't ruined and after talking to both of them for a minute, I was able to have sex with her. She texted me when I left and thanked me for being respectful.

Key word. RESPECTFUL.

People, please dont just allow anyone into your home. Don't ve afraid to meet on mutual ground. If you don't like something that's happening, speak up. Communicate and discuss everything beforehand. I'm completely cool with humiliation, if it's desired by all parties. If someone can respect your boundaries beforehand, that's their problem. Don't let them anywhere near you. It's losers like that that give the lifestyle a bad name.

I've already notified friends within our community that this guy is a dick and should not be invited anywhere.

I feel like this was more of a rant than advice, bur take this for what it is.