Didn’t mean for this to be so long appreciate you reading and input!

I (M30) engaged for about a year to my absolutely beautiful fiancé (F27) dated 4 years, known each other all our lives as parents are friends and have her first kiss at 16. However we did date other people and each had multiple partners. Right after engagement I told her my fantasies including sharing her with another man. She seemed shocked, interested, but never said no; that same week she asked me a lot of questions including if I wanted to have sex with other people before getting married. Positioned this from my end as I don’t care to have sex with other women but my turn on is you being turned on, becoming a sexy hotwife, and you wanting this and I would love to see you this way. Following weeks had crazy sex multiple times a day talking about this, fantasying, and she seemed more interested than anything, especially when going out and a bit drunk.

After about a month she left with her family trip to Colorado and when returned the sexy hotwife talk died down. Later I left to a family trip to NYC during the trip we sexted, sent nudes, etc. I have to clarify she is the girl with the highest sex drive I have ever met, VERY horny all the time. Have sex like crazy, but that is another story! One day during my family trip my emotions took the best of me and told her I know you and you need sex, she answered she does. Told her to download an app and see where it takes you she asked if I was sure and said I was and left it at that.

That same night she sent me a screenshot talking with a guy from bumble and she said I am going to invite him over as a one night stand, which she has done before me. The conversation seemed she had talked to this guy all day. I told her to have fun and text me with updates, well she chickened out. Told me she wrote the message but never sent it was afraid of inviting a random over to our apartment, which I totally understood. I told her I was proud of her for everything never discussed it after that.

Months passed and we travelled to a wedding that would last several days in Mexico and there were people from all over the world attending well she became friends with this older guy (around 40) from Chile and caught them talking a few times. During the week I told her I noticed she spent time with him, she responded you getting jealous answered no not at all more excited than anything. She looked at me and said she liked him and was the first time she met somebody that wants to have sex with other than me during our relationship because he was so cool and different than me. Told her to take his number and see what happens, no pressure.

Well drama happened during the wedding with her best friend getting drunk never had a chance to sleep with him. However they did text each other kinda flirting the whole wedding weekend. We each went out way after this.

A few months later conversation came up don’t even remember how but told her to start texting him while having sex, only if she wanted. To my amazement she did after a week of conversations she even sent him a nude to him she said she felt comfortable because we were in US and he was in Chile. Caused amazing sex between us, after a while Chile guy said he was going out with somebody needed to stopped talking. She told me about it that it was fun but didn’t really want to pursue it again with him or anybody, not interested anymore. She did this initially for me but wasn’t interested in having sex with anybody else.

Months passed, and out of no where one day she tells me a bunch of guys hit on her during the summer told her of course because she is beautiful and insanely hot she just laughed thought that was strange but ok. Later she had her 4th bachelorette party went to Puerto Escondido, Mexico with like 10 GF’s, and a few weeks after her return I was in our shared computer and noticed on iPhotos a shared cloud folder that said Mexico Bach, well it has a lot of pictures with her friends being silly, creating TikTok’s, and even challenges like the beer poster challenge on the beach she created for me. Then out of no where very explicit pictures/videos of them flashing each others show up and was about to stop felt very invasive but then saw most girls kissing each other including my fiancé so kept looking was very hot. Then on the last night (which I knew) she went to a very posh rave in the middle of the jungle was at awe with her outfit as never seen this or posted pictures. She had long tight but revealing dress which partially covered her boobs basically side boobs were free for all no bra, face paint with glitter all over, she looked amazing. Continued to see pictures and guys started showing up sitting in their table at the rave. Pictures with the DJ in the booth and a video where she was dancing right in front of the DJ kinda a grinding with one of the guys from the table while he touching her hips while people shouted around them.

Was more turned on then anything but left it at that. Didn’t want to see any more a few days later had a whole speech I brought up if she had done anything with anybody that it was ok but we need communication and she confessed during bachelorette a group of Spanish guys hit on all of them and she danced with one guy and tried to kiss her but she wasn’t into him and stopped him as he tried to kiss her in front of all her friends.

Conversation grew into if she wanted to have sex with anybody else before the wedding she could and she said she appreciated this from my end but hasn’t met anybody she wanted to have sex with and was very happy with me and our sex life, even asked about her fantasies but said she didn’t have any however she will let me know if anything changes and will keep an open mind. This was last week and in two weeks she is going to another bachelorette and last one before our wedding in Austin and am hoping something happens. Previously she told me she would never do anything with friends, as one friend cheated once and caused so much drama with friend group, some even stopped talking to cheater for a while; which it did happened I lived through that, so this limits options.

My questions are have I been to pushy with her even though it been in a lapse of almost a year and she has always been so cool about it? Main worry is her to resent me or cause issues with our relationship, should I chill for a while until she brings it up, or do I continue persuading her? What would you do, and how would you approach it from here?