First off - I dunno if this is technically hotwifing or not.

I have looked this up and found significantly different answers. Essentially I want to watch my wife fuck other guys, but not be involved (that much) or degraded at all.

If this doesn't fit this sub, I apologize, please delete

Also Sorry for the long read, but this might have some info that can help other newbies.

**Preamble:**I (M44) have wanted to watch my wife (F40) with another man for awhile now. I brought it up to her, and she wasn't enthusiastic about it. I didn't pressure her, but a couple of times the subject came up again. It lead to some related dirty talk. This dirty talk lead to more conversations and even more dirty talk. Eventually we were on the same page.

After talking about it for ages, we made some ground rules:

• No degrading me (nothing against guys into that, but I am not)
• I'd be more of a voyeur than participant
• Protection during penetration
• She can do or say anything that feels good in heat of moment (this was big because she was so scared of offending me, or having me not feel part of it,but really her getting lost in the moment is the part I looked forward to most)
• Has to be a stranger not a friend
• We will chat on KIK in a group message before meeting, but she can say or do anything she wants in the chat (I didn't want her to censor herself if the convo got hot and sexy, in fact, going in to read their convos and noticing it got spicy was a massive turn on).
• Has to be at a nice hotel (my dime). Because hey if things don't get well, we can still get room service breakfast.

It took quite a bit of effort to find someone we agreed on. We weren't picky physically but how we vibed - even in text message - mattered. I tried a couple of methods. (This isn't advice per se - rather just what worked for our specific situation)

• A classifieds website (DL) - Wasn't for me. Almost everyone who contacted me ignored most of what I said in my original message.
• An app (Feeld) - I didn't love the user experience. But I could see it working OK, especially for spur of the moment things. This might also be better for younger people.
• A LS based website - Forget how I found it, might have been here. Heard it was a good solution for our area. Worked out wonderfully.

We found a guy my wife was attracted too, and he was experienced. He had a few vouches on the site He was very patient as we set up our ideal evening.We started chatting in KIK to see if we vibed. After a few rounds of texting (increasingly hot), and noticing my wife's increased sex drive - I knew it was time.

**The Meetup:**Met at a local hotel. Wife and I sat in the hotel bar to pregame with a drink, and then about 20 minutes later he showed up. We said our Hellos and before he sat down he asked where the restroom was (he later told us, this was to give us time to bail if we didn't like first impressions). When he got back, he had a drink with us, we chatted about ourselves then decided it was time to head up to the room.I was super excited/nervous heading up in the elevator. We get in the room and I go to bathroom, when I come out Bull tells me that my wife is a great kisser. Super hot to hear.I sprung for a suite so we sat on the couch, wife in the middle. We chatted for about 20 seconds before he started to touch my wife's tit. He slipped his hand under her bra and tweaked her nipple. She leaned forward and I undid her bra. She slipped that off, and got rid of her shirt at the same. She sat back down between us and put her hands behind her head, giving both the bull and I access to her tits. We each played with one as she squirmed and moaned.He started sucking hungrily on her nipple and it turned me on to hear her moan his name. She put her hand on the back of his head and held him against her breast. She made eye contact with me and smiled. The smile didn't say anything specific, but it also said everything all at once.After some more tit play, the Bull slid her pants and panties off. The only thing she was wearing, was the world's biggest smile. He started to eat her pussy. She groaned and grabbed at my cock. Although, most of her attention was on the Bull who was eating her pussy like it was his last meal. At this point I couldn't believe what was happening, but I was as turned on as I had ever been.The Bull stood up and pulled out his cock. Way girthier than my cock. Probably 2 inches longer too. My wife couldn't reach her hand out to grab fast enough. She stared, mouth hanging partway open in lust as she stroked it back and forth.The Bull sat back down and in a flash my wife hopped on to her knees in front of it. She started sucking it. Teasing the top with her tongue. Running her entire mouth up and down the shaft. I asked her to suck his balls and she did it instantly. Stroked his cock while she licked and sucked his balls. Then she started sucking again and took it down her throat. The whole thing. Every time she did it, he would start fucking her throat until she had to come up for breath. It was so hot to hear the deep breath she would take after a face fucking session. It was a sharp intake of breath that melted into a "mmmmm" groan.She kept sucking his cock, looking at me sometimes, and also looking up into his eyes. That turned me on the most. Finally, The Bull asked if we wanted to head to the bedroom. Hell yeah.We got into the bedroom and my wife laid on her back, while I sat on the bed beside her. She started out by holding my hand. He was eating her out again until she finally told him she wanted his cock. It was so hot to watch this stranger slide his big cock into her. Her eyes opening, mouth parting, and the smallest moan passing her lips. He started fucking her, and he was fucking her hard. She was so wet, all you could hear was how wet she was. He was fucking her in missionary as she held my hand and told me how good it felt (between gasps). She started playing with my cock, it was already soaked in precum and slipped so easily through her fingers.He was fucking her so hard at this point - she was moaning his name (huge turn on) and begging to him to never stop. He turned her on her side and kept hammering away, slapping her ass almost as loud as his the slap of his cock smashing into her. She started to sound super wet, the he suddenly jumped off her and fingered her to an orgasm and squirt.She needed a break.I went to get her a drink, and when I got back she was cuddled against him stroking his cock and running her foot up and down his leg. One of the hottest things I've ever seen. I checked in with her and she was very happy and ready for more. Once she had her drink, she hopped onto all fours and swayed her ass back and forth for him.He started by lubing up his dick (raw right now) and sliding it through her ass cheeks. She loved that feeling as much as I loved watching it. He put a condom on and pushed into her pussy. She held my hand, stared into my eyes and whispered "I love you". It was the last chance she had to talk because shortly after she was lost to the moment as he pounded away at her doggy style. This is her favorite position and it showed. She was in ecstasy as he fucked her harder and harder. At one point he was standing and straddling her ass for maximum force.He flipped her back over and started fucking until she sounded so wet again. Once again, he made her squirt. This time no break. He pushed back in and was fucking her hard. For an impossibly long time he pounded away at her pussy, she was lost moaning his name, thanking her maker and screaming "FUCK ME". She asked him to cum in her (with condom). He came harder than anyone I have ever seen. Spasming on top of her, as she clutched him close.We all chatted and joked for a bit and then he left so her and I could be alone.**Aftermath:**I almost feel weird about us having no hang ups. It was fun, we both liked it. We have been closer than ever this past week. She feels sexier than ever, and I reap that reward. This could be the glow of the first time that will eventually wear off, but I hope not.TLDR: I wanted to see my wife fuck another man, we did it, it went well. Everyone is happy. We will do it again.