Unpopular opinion but very much needed with all the enthusiastic newbees recently.

Hotwifing is dangerous.

Sometimes it takes 1 experience to ruin a seemingly solid marriage and trigger an avalanche of misery.

Our story:

Over the summer we got interested in sex clubs. My wife introduced the idea of a mff threesome in which I wasn't interested. I dropped the "you would like a good spitroast" which set something off in her.

We had a lot of public sex, went to sex clubs and the idea of introducing a third kept coming up.

In the meantime my wife started a OF to fund the lifestyle. It's expensive if you go to clubs and hotels regularly.

Eventually we met a guy who was cool. He knew his place. Fucked her to heaven and back, said goodbye and that's it.

Our sex life was at a all-time high. We had sex every possible moment.

My wife introduced the idea of filming a MFM for her OF page since her fans requested it a lot. I agreed but only if the contact would be strictly business and I would have access to the conversations upon request.

We met a guy at a club who seemed cool, respectful and respectful of our boundaries. We had a fun night at the club and my wife asked me if I was okay if she asked him to film. I agreed.

He was down and they exchanged Snapchat handles.

A couple weeks later, a date was set. He would pay for the hotel. We set boundaries like no kissing and safe sex only. I would join in later because I had to work and shooting a scene takes a lot of effort to get it right.

My nerves where all over the place but I trusted my wife to do it solo. The experience itself was great. The footage was great.

I did feel like there was something missing in the footage she send me. First red flag.

The day after I asked her what she was up to and she said 'Im having coffee with X because I need his ID and signature for the release form. I didn't think too much of it.

I got a gut feeling something was off and I confronted her. Turned out they did kiss in the heat of the moment. I asked her to show me the scene and she did. My heart stopped as I saw it. It wasn't just sex, he was fucking her like passionate lovers would do. Telling her all the right things, doing all the right move, kissing her all over. I got sick and threw up.

We talked about it later that night and she admitted they crossed a line but couldn't resist it in the heat of the moment. I knew something like this could happen so I asked her to delete his contact information and end whatever what was going on. She agreed.

A couple days later we had sex and I pulled the tip of s condom out of her private part. She was like "oh shit why didn't he tell me" I was upset but forgot about it after her period started the day after.

Over the course of a few weeks our sex life slowed down. I thought because of work stress, the kids being sick and all that stuff.

It kept regressing significantly and I asked her what was wrong. She told me she was in a bad headspace and not to worry.

After a month I noticed her schedule was off and reality struck. I confronted her and she admitted she was in love with the guy and wasn't able to break it off because her feelings where too strong. She needed space to think about it. I was upset but I agreed.

She told me she was going to see him to break it off. I went away to my parents house to cool down for a couple days and when I got back home I noticed it was still off. She said she had doubts about our marriage since the guy made her feel like I never did in our 10 years together. Again she needed space because the situation got heated.

We got back together and acted like nothing happened except the intimacy wasn't there. I thought she was in a bad headspace and it needed more time.

She went to see her therapist again after years and got back telling me we would need a time out for at least 2 weeks to let emotions cool down. At this point I had enough but agreed because we have 2 small children who are the true victims here.

4 days in our time out, it was my turn to be at the house and when I got there she was still there although we agreed to not see eachother. We had coffee and talked for hours just like the old days. She even cooked lunch.

As I left to pick up the kids and go to my parents house for the weekend she cried.

The day after she kept texting me like we used to. And on Sunday she texted " please come home without the kids we need to talk". I got home and she kissed me more passionate than ever before. She apologized a million timed and said she broke it off and wanted to be with me.

I was happy obviously but also a bit hesitant. I suggested to finish the two week time out to let things cool down.

The day after she begged me to come home. Turned out she really wanted to go back to the guy and needed me there to prevent it.

I got home and her emotions where all over.

Her therapist told her to really take a break from it all for at least a month before making any decisions. She went from divorce to forever together and back.

Currently where making memories with the kids before we separate for a month.

She says her "love" feeling for me is gone but wants to find it back. I don't know what I feel.

Edit: they had a full-blown affair. They called eachother every time I left the House. He took days worth of unpayed leave to see her.

Bottom line: Think about who is getting hurt when it turns out bad. If it's young children please don't join the LS