Just having a conversation with my partner, because we've just realised we haven't come across anyone describing their situation quite like ours.

We've noticed Hotwives tend to be submissive, to husband and/or their Third. It seems the dominant women in Ethical Non Monogamy tend to find a cuckhold and become a cuckholdress. I'm a dominant woman, don't have a submissive bone in my body (not to say I need to have control 24/7. I'm fine being passive, just do not get anything from submitting/serving.) But I'm not into cucking my partner or anything like that or having a "Bull." One of our two Thirds is my submissive.

It seems like a bit of a unique arrangement. Or it seems that way because I haven't seen any accounts of dominant women in Hotwifing, only in Cuckholding. Are there any other Hotwives who enjoy this lifestyle but aren't submissive to anyone?